Baby Daddy!

Hi Auntie,

I have been with my boyfriend for over four years. During our relationship he cheated on me and had a child with another woman. Needless to say I took him back and we took his son in and have been raising him as our own. Now that his son is becoming older, he just started calling me mom out of the blue. I didn't correct him at the time (he is just a toddler) but I am conflicted if I should talk to his father about him calling me Mom, should I ask permission?

Faye, IL

Hi Faye,

First and foremost it takes a hell of a lot of balls to take a man back that not only cheated on your but concieved a child in his affair! All I can say is you also have proof he didn't use protection so you better have protected yourself! Now on to the problem at hand, his son, and the usage of the word mom. Now, normally if his biological mom was still in the picture I would see it a point to talk to your boyfriend about it, but you have been raising him as your own. It is only natural for him to call you mom and it's not that you pushed him to call you it. Your boyfriend will find out in due time that his son is referring to you as mom. If he has a problem with it, maybe you need to re-evaluate your relationship and what each of you are expecting not out only your relationship but raising his son as both of yours.
-Auntie Reggie