You're Here, You're Queer, Get Use to It!

Auntie J,
How do I tell my live in girlfriend of two years that I think I'm gay?
- RJ, CA

RJ,
You don't THINK you're gay. If you THINK you might be gay, chances are, you're gay. My question is how does your girlfriend not know this? She probably thinks you are the ideal boyfriend. Sweet, sensitive, and active participant when you shop, great design ideas, compassionate, caring. She probably realizes it, but doesn't want to accept it. Just sit her down and tell her who you are and how you feel and apologize for hurting her, but you need to tell her. You both can't live a lie forever.
-Auntie J